I didn’t know what a thirst trap was until I received this response and googled it. But I know the instinct you’re talking about. I was faculty advisor for a club which sometimes played a board game where the players drew cards that had some bawdy Instructions. I quickly realized that if I participated in those games I would possibly make the young women in the club uncomfortable. I don’t think many of the young women realized that, but I did. That’s part of what it means to be the adult in the room. So I would make excuses to leave when they started playing those games.