I think it is important to rewrite the rules of courtesy so that they don’t just accommodate the feelings of the privileged. But banning words can makes the words more powerful and the marginalized less powerful. You can see this same trend in sexual euphemisms. Once they’ve been repeatedly used, they become as sexy as the symbols they were covering up. So new symbols have to be coined, which eventually become as sexy as the originals, and so on until every symbolic act becomes sexy. The Victorians got so sex-obsessed by trying to repress sexual expression that eventually the word “leg” became taboo, and chair legs had to be covered up with doilies. Each banned expression about marginalized groups creates a similar sensitivity to the expressions that are left, which leads to more banned expressions and so on. More on this below.

https://teedrockwell.medium.com/the-fall-and-rise-of-forbidden-language-bb0a27152b09