I won't deny you your constitutional right to rant. That's one of the things that Medium is for. But I think you've got this Ass-Backwards as it were. People don't hit on other people because they believe something about themselves ( I will be successful because I am white etc.) They hit on someone because they desire the person they are hitting on. I've been out of this game for decades, fortunately, but the one thing I remember is that no one believes they will be successful when they make an advance. The hitters are terrified of the hittees, and bear the scars of rejection for every time they're turned down. And yet people frequently approach those they have little chance for, and they should. Everybody's got a right to swing for the fence, and aim for the stars, in love and everything else.